It’s All About You
A 75 year Harvard Medical School study has revealed that good, supportive relationships are the secret to happiness and life satisfaction - stating: “Happiness is love. Full Stop.”
So, if you are looking for happiness, the obvious conclusion to draw from this is to focus more on building and maintaining good relationships.
Makes sense EXCEPT what if you actually only need one good relationship to find the happiness you seek?
Your relationship with yourself.
We tend to look to others to provide the unconditional love, acceptance, respect, support and encouragement we want. What if you provided this for yourself instead?
What if your relationships with others were no longer about filling holes or plugging gaps in your sense of self? Imagine changing from needing relationships to make you feel whole and complete to wanting relationships to complement all that you already are.
Sorting out your relationship with yourself will also mean you are much better placed to have good, positive relationships with others. You will stop wasting time, energy and heartache on making less than wonderful choices, because you will know what you are really looking for in a relationship.
Getting your relationship with yourself right positively impacts absolutely everyone and everything in your life. If you are one of the many who believe it is selfish or indulgent to focus too much on yourself just think of it as creating strong foundations for the rest of your life. You wouldn’t build a house without laying solid foundations first.
Wondering how to start? Think about the following questions:
How much unconditional love, support and encouragement do you give yourself?
How often do you put yourself in situations that drain you or make you feel ‘less’?
How often do you judge yourself negatively?
How much do you do to nurture yourself?